The Law Of Attraction For Love

Last Updated: September 19th, 2023

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Can The Law Of Attraction Help You Find Love?

Can you use the Law of Attraction for Love? Well, if you believe that the law of attraction is real then it should stand to reason that you can use the law of attraction for love.

We believe that every individual is the creator of their own future and fate. Each and every person also has a say of the things that are manifest in their future. This certainly includes relationships and love.

If we were to tell you that from the moment you were born, right up until now, you have attracted everything that you have in your life. You may very well argue that you never wanted to be miserable. Why would anyone attract pain and hurt into their lives. No-one wants to lose their job, or be poor. No-one uses the law of attraction to manifest a bad relationship or to be alone.

Unfortunately, in some ways, the law of attraction – much like the law of gravity – just is. It doesn’t know the difference between the things you want versus the things you do not want. It just knows what you give your attention to. It only knows what you think about. You become and attract the things you spend energy thinking about.

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Control Your Thoughts

This means we must learn to control our thoughts. Every thought is energy which is released into the universe. The universe is designed to assist us to manifest our thoughts.

The longer and harder we think about something the more energy we have put into it and the more likely it is to manifest.

The universe can’t tell whether the things we’re thinking about are positive for us or negative. Indeed, depending on your viewpoint, one can argue that in fact there is no such thing as positive or negative. There is just experience. How we interpret that experience is all that matters. But that’s a subject for a different article.

So, if you find yourself thinking about things that you don’t want you should immediately switch your thoughts to something that you do want. This is easier said than done and takes considerable practise.

In one of my sessions of NLP many years ago (again, a topic for another article) I was taught to put my thoughts onto a piece of paper. Then to imagine that piece of paper was pegged onto a washing line that was strung between two apartments that cross a road. The washing line was a circular line, with a pulley at each end. Pulling one string toward me, pulled the other string away from me.

The piece of paper was pegged onto the line, and then I was to pull on the other line – this had the effect of moving my negative thoughts away from me. This made them much smaller visually, and concentrating on this for just a few seconds was usually enough to get the thoughts out of my head.

Once the negative thoughts have moved, fill the space by thinking about what you do want. There can be absolutely no place in your thoughts for things that you do not want.

How Does The Law Of Attraction For Love Work?

If you turn your desires over to the universe, you will be surprised and dazzled by what is delivered. This is where magic and miracles happen
The Secret

So all that’s needed is for you to turn your desire over to the universe.

How do we do that? The only thing you need to do is to control your thoughts. You are a creator of your own destiny. You are designed to be a creator – because it is only by creating that we can experience. And we create best by using our thought. Thoughts have energy. And the Universe responds.

Be Clear About What You Want

Many of us are unclear about what it is we want in a relationship. This goes for the kind of person we want to be in a relationship with, to how we want the relationship itself to be. Sometimes we may want someone that looks amazing and sexy. Other times we may want someone who understands us like no other and can accept us the way we are.

In my relationship I have both in the one person and so much more. But that’s my story and I’m not going into detail about it. For me, I met this person years ago – and through being young and foolish parted ways. Sometimes subconsciously I would think about her, sometimes consciously throughout the years. 25 years we met again – and I have everything I could want. The Law Of Attraction worked for me 🙂

Even Christians talk in some way about the Law Of Attraction – although of course they do not see it quite in the same way.

Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.
The Bible – New International Version. Matthew 7:7

Christians of course ascribe the giving as from God. In this article we consider God and the Universe to be one and the same. You can choose which you prefer. The Bible in fact is littered with such acknowledgments that you will get what you ask for.

What the Bible doesn’t highlight though is that again, you must control your thoughts. Concentrating on things that you don’t want to happen is unfortunately just as powerful as focusing on things that you do.

So, be clear in your thoughts of what you want. Do not confuse the universe by muddling your messages / thoughts. Think only on the things you want. Rid your mind of the things you do not want. The more unclear your message the harder it is for the universe to discern what you want and the more difficult it is for it to deliver.

Mixed messages end up with nothing being delivered. Thoughts of things that you don’t want that are stronger than things that you do want will deliver the wrong things.

Think clear, think positive.

Write The Final Desire

This can help crystallise your thoughts and keep them on track. Once you have decided the type of relationship you desire, write the pieces of your thoughts down to concentrate on. Then when your thoughts stray you will have a roadmap to follow back to the true desire of your heart.

Do NOT envisage a person, unless that person specifically does match the type of relationship you desire. This is because you should not be asking the universe to change someone else. You can ask the universe to change you – but not someone else. This is because of the fundamental law of free will. This is a complex philosophical topic which I’ll not get into in this article. I’ll just leave it that the universe will not put the two of you together if you are clear about your relationship desires and the person does not match. Provided your messages aren’t mixed.

Writing down the characteristics of the relationship you want, and thinking on them clearly may provide results you do not expect. This can be especially true if you have a particular person in mind when you think of the love that you want the law of attraction to manifest.

If the love relationship does not manifest with the person you thought it would, it means they were in fact not the right person based on the thoughts you were putting to the universe. Someone who matches better will instead arrive. The universe sees the big picture and will provide.

Live The Thoughts

You can create a vision board to help keep your thoughts on track. This works for any manifestation through the Law Of Attraction that you desire. In the case of relationship and love, find pictures of the type of person you wish to attract. Perhaps they could be pictures of the activities you picture the two of your enjoying together.

Put the vision board somewhere that you will see it regularly. The fridge is often a good place, held up with fridge magnets perhaps.

Live the thoughts by thinking as if you have already met the person. You don’t need to see their face, but imagine the things you will talk about. Picture the things you will do together. See the places you will visit together.

Focus on the positive thinking of your relationship. Start releasing those positive thoughts into the universe as if you are already living the relationship you want. And show gratitude. This can be hard because you’ll be thinking that you don’t yet have the thing you want. But you have to think that you have.

How Will This Happen And When?

This is an aspect that you absolutely should not concern yourself with. The universe will work both of these things out in due course. And sometimes these things take time. Remember, it took me 25 years to get the relationship I wanted – and it was well worth the wait!

You cannot hurry a fine wine. You cannot speed up the process of creation. It takes as long as it takes. Your goal is to remain positively focussed on what you want.

Any creation that is hurried becomes tainted. A painting, or a sculpture is cheapened when it is finished off in a hurry. So it is with the process of creation from thoughts. Have patience. Be grateful for knowing that you absolutely will receive what you ask for. Behaving as if you already have it shows the universe that you can handle what it will give you.

Patience is absolutely vital.

Because when we become impatient we allow negative thoughts to enter our minds. And remember, the universe is simply creating from our thought energy. When we ask when, we sow doubt into our minds by the very nature of the question. Doubt leads to negative thoughts. Negative thoughts manifest in just the same way as positive ones. This is because there are no negative or positive thoughts – just thoughts that serve us and thoughts that do not. They are all just energy. Concentrate on thoughts that serve you.

Love….. Yourself!

Oh boy, how difficult is this one?

But you can NOT have a good relationship with someone else if you do not have a good relationship with yourself first.

No matter who you are, what you have experienced, what you have done – you are loveable. It is important to realise that your previous experiences have shaped how you think, what you like and what you don’t like. But they don’t define whether you’re loveable or not. You are not broken. Nobody is. You are moulded by previous experiences but not broken.

Be thankful for the things you have in your life. Feel and experience the beauty that is all around you. Feel the good inside of you, within you.

The Law Of Attraction and the universe is quite clear that others will think of you as you think of yourself. If they don’t think that when they first meet you, they will come to think that way over time. This is because this is exactly, again, the way the universe works.

You manifest what you think about. If you think about how terrible you are then you will manifest those thoughts in other people.

Love yourself. Respect yourself. Let go of your insecurities. Think and believe that you are worth everything you wish to have and the universe will send someone who thinks the same.

You are the creator of your own world and experience when your thoughts are backed by a strong belief. Being positive when you’ve been served crap for the previous parts of your life is difficult. It may help to seek a counsellor or someone who can help remind you of these things over time.